Salespeople like control. Surprisingly though, good salespeople can sometimes lose control when they get home with the kids.
My wife is a talented salesperson with extensive experience in working the tools of the sales trade. But after our son was born something changed. I noticed it when he was old enough to talk. She would ask him what he wanted to eat, and would get very frustrated with his inability to make a quick decision. All too often he would say “I don’t know”. Even worse was when he would ask for something we didn’t have. At that point his expectations had gotten to a point to where she would have to go out and get what he wanted or deal with a crying fit.
I watched her go through this aggravating experience several times before I finally I said to her “Honey, you’re a great salesperson. Why on earth would you ask an open ended question like that? You need to use your professional sales skills. Close him.”
“Huh?”, she said.
If there is one thing good sales people know, it’s how to close. To finalize the deal and move on to the next one. She didn’t seem to realize that she desperately needed to control the situation, just like she would in a professional sales situation.
“This situation is screaming out for the alternate choice close” I said. “Don’t ask what he wants for breakfast. First check what we have in the house, then offer him a choice. ‘Do you want pancakes or cereal?’ ‘Bacon or scrambled eggs?’”
The alternate choice close allows you to take control and, at the same time, make your prospect feel like they have control. As any parent should know, control is something children crave. As they grow they feel compelled to assert their independence for reasons they don’t even understand. Offering choices allows them to satisfy this need while you maintain your control.
Naturally, spouses of both sexes don’t like to admit the other one is right but my wife had to acknowledge that I made a good point. She was especially surprised that she hadn’t thought of this on her own. From then on she made good use of this classic sales tool and life got just a little easier.